We are entering the busiest season for online dating. Every year, from January to March, there is an average increase of 30% in signups on dating sites as reported by the most popular dating sites. What does this mean for you? You will more likely increase the chances to find your match.
I know people have some doubts and suspicions about online dating. I am not saying online is the ONLY place you can find your big love, but if you are having a hard time to meet people in everyday life and want to try online dating, there are some strategies and skills you need to know before you throw yourself out there.
If you have tried online dating before but didn’t get good results, or if you are thinking about online dating, but feel overwhelmed about where to start, you are in the right place. By watching this video, you will receive three valuable tips about beginning in the online dating world.
Today I am giving you 3 foundational pieces that most of people are missing when they start on their online dating journey. And it is because of these missing pieces that most people fail or think that online dating doesn’t work! But, online dating DOES work!
Here are 3 Keys to success with online dating:
1. Establish a Healthy Mindset for Online Dating
No matter whether you like it or not, the dating sites and apps have become a major part of single life, and they are not going away anytime soon. From online dating statistics, the total number of singles in the US is around 54 million people. The total number of people who have tried online dating is 49 million. In 2017, 19% of brides said they met their spouse online, 17% through friends, 15% during college and 12% from work.
With these statistics in mind, take a hard look at the reality … it is hard to meet people if you have busy working schedule, if you have a small circle of friends and family, if you are a single parent with children, or if you feel too old for bar scene/night clubs. Online dating can provide the access to people you couldn’t possibly meet as you conduct your day-to-day life. But you also have to remember, online dating will expose you to all types of characters, both good and bad. It’s not that the people online are worse than people you would meet in daily life. They are same people. You just have to know how to spot the liars, the flakes, the crazies, the players on the table when you are online, just as you would if you were talking to someone at a bar or a social gathering. It is important to understand the difference between someone being rude and someone who is acting in his self-interest. Likewise, it is also important to understand that you are responsible for your own behaviors.
Therefore, as you wade into the online dating scene, it is critical that you enter with a healthy mindset, a good understanding of the online environment, and what to expect as you “talk” to the other single people in the online world. And, you have to know how to walk away from the things that are not working for you.
2. Develop an Effective Online Dating Strategy
There are tons of dating apps on the market these days. Based on what you are looking for, you will have to pick one or two suitable dating apps that are grounded in the type of partner you would like in your life. Most apps require a paid subscription. If you want online dating to succeed, I recommend at least a 3 month subscription. Subscription are supposed to be like a gym membership. They are used for a period of time consistently, not just for one intense month.
An effective online dating strategy consists of four main components: The photos, the profile write-up, the method to select and “talk” with men who may catch your interest, and how to take the “talk” to the next step of meeting face-to-face.
With photos, there are good and not-so-good ways to select photos to post. It is important to know how many photos are the right number to have on your profile and what types of photos will garner interest from men who are on the same site.
While photos are used to catch the eye, the profile is what will catch the mind. It is imperative that you write and honest and personal profile to make you stand out from all the others who are searching for their partner. Your profile is your ad. It is your branding. It must be designed to entertain and get results.
The two basic ways to engage men on a dating site is to either wait for them to contact you (not recommended), or for you to take the initiative to contact them (recommended). If you are waiting for men to contact you first, you may be missing the best opportunity to meet people in which YOU are interested. As a woman, there is nothing wrong with you searching through the various profiles of men to try and find those who have similar interests as you or men who have the necessary qualifications to meet your “must haves”. Mark your favorites on a weekly basis and take the time to write to them.
3. Make Online Conversation a Fun Process
This is the most delicate part of online dating. Many conversations die because one person is not carrying their end of the conversation. You get excited about the guys who write to you, but after a few email exchanges, they go dark. Or you write to someone you think would be a great potential match, but he never replies back. Remember, it takes two people to have a conversation. If one side of the conversation is boring, the other will quickly lose interest. So make sure to look at your own efforts and have a plan to make the conversation light, fun and entertaining. The purpose of online communication is to see if you two want to meet in person. When it comes to online communication, I take personal time to teach every one of my private clients the best methods to really engage people online.
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Please feel free to grab a free 30-minute consultation with me if you have more questions or if you want to enroll in this program. The program is a self-paced learning program. Once you enroll, you can watch at your leisure. You CAN master online dating with less than 20 coaching videos and access to these practical tools and templates.
About Xiaoli Mei
Xiaoli Mei is a Certified Life Coach, known as the Happiness In Love™ Coach for coaching professional women to find true love and to bring balance to a happy relationship with a busy career. Having been on a quest to live the life of her dreams and share it with her beloved, Xiaoli emigrated to the United States from China in the late 90’s. She successfully established a career in Corporate America working for Fortune 100 companies. However, in spite of her great career, Xiaoli found herself feeling miserable, empty, lonely, confused and sad. Having experienced two failed marriages and other broken relationships, she knew there had to be a way to balance a successful career AND to have a fulfilling relationship.
Undeterred from her past experiences, Xiaoli set out to crack the “Happiness Code” while working two jobs. And raising her 2 children as a single mom in the San Francisco Bay Area. She discovered what it takes for career women to find lasting happiness and love in the Western world.
Today Xiaoli lives happily with her life partner and teaches women from all cultural backgrounds on finding their true love. She guides her clients to bring balance to career and love. She helps them attain joy and harmony in their lives without sacrificing one important life aspiration over another. Xiaoli is loved by her clients. Her coaching style is witty, wise, and highly empowering. She is an inspirational speaker and a natural motivator.