Are You Dating in the Right Order?

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Here is a very interesting fact I’ve noticed about dating:

I’ve met many smart and successful career women who are incredibly busy and super choosey. They claim that they have no time to go out to social events looking for love, let along online dating. “That’s a huge time sink”, one of them said to me.

Ah, but once they are with someone, they seem to have all the time in the world. They would drop everything just to be with their guy, even if he is the wrong type of guy for a relationship.

Jennifer is one of these women. As often as she told me that she wanted to have a family and a man to share life with, she never actually spent time actively looking for a guy. Instead, she worked long hours, consistently traveled, and refused to date online. She said that online dating was creepy, unnatural, and definitely not for classy people like her. She wanted the development of any relationship to be “organic”. Ok, that was her opinion, so I left her alone.

Then, all of a sudden, she contacted me out of the blue for a consultation. She was finally in a relationship with someone, but there was one problem: the guy didn’t want to get married or have kids. Still, she didn’t want to break up with him because they connected on so many levels. She hoped that, one day, he would change his mind?

This can be a common problem when dating. Jennifer’s goals and actions weren’t aligned. She wanted a man who wants a family and kids, but she was spending her time dating men who did not.

I suggested that, instead of doing this, that she should start dating other men and find one who is willing to commit to marriage and kids. Simply hoping that her current guy would change his mind was just too risky.

“But I don’t have time to date other men!” she said.

I was confused. “Wait, but you are spending lots of time with this guy, aren’t you?”

Guess what she said? “Well, when I meet a man I like, of course I make time for him!” 

Ah! Jennifer had the order backward!

You don’t make time for the right guy, you make time to MEET the right guy.

If you don’t make time to meet him –to go online, to go to parties, to go to social events, to schedule a date every weekend– there will be no right guy to make time for!

So, please, don’t fall into the same trap Jennifer has. Make time for love and love will make time for you! Set up a brilliant online dating profile, log on a half-hour a day, flirt with 7 to 10 guys at a time, and you’ll be on your way. And if all that sounds a bit daunting and you want a roadmap on how to do it, I’ve got one for you!

In the 12 Week Online Dating Challenge, there are 20 coaching videos, along with 18 tools and exercises, that are PROVEN to lead to online dating success! We will work on developing a step-by-step dating system by writing a one-of-a-kind online dating profile, learning to better communicate with men through email, text, and phone, and effectively single out the best matches leading to great first dates and wonderful relationships. This dating system is the missing link of why some people can easily find their soulmates online while others find only frustration. All of the details are in the link here.

If you are not sure if you are right candidate for this challenge, please grab me for a 30 minutes free consultation. I will have the answer for you!

Warmest wishes and much love,

PS; Want to learn more about dating & relationship wisdom? I invite you to head on over to my Facebook private group!


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