Today I would like to answer a question from my Facebook group. The question is: “I found love, but the real challenge is how do I keep my man on his toes and keep him loving me?” Congratulations you found love! Great first step.
When you say, “…keep my man on his toes” it sounds like you want to keep your man always guessing. Do you want him walking on eggshells, afraid for the next surprise? In a relationship, you do not want to keep anyone constantly on their toes. Just like you would not want anyone to keep you on your toes. I do not think this is what you meant when you asked the question I believe what you are asking here is how to keep him interested, engaged, and pleasantly surprised so that he responds by adoring you, pleasing you all the time, and on occasion, pleasantly surprising you.
We all experienced the excitement at the beginning of a relationship. But some of us have the fear that once the “honeymoon phase” is over, once you have settled down to a mutual relationship, your man will become lazy and not as motivated as before. It doesn’t have to be that way.
Here are 3 things you can do to keep your man love you forever:
#1 – Compliment what he does for you. Appreciate his actions. I made a video a few weeks back why compliment works magic
#2 – Focus on the business of making yourself happy…and SHOW IT.
At the beginning of dating, two people are attracted to each other with certain physical chemistry. But the way to keep the attraction going is found in showing your true self. It has to be on display to your man through your Self Confidence your Authenticity. You must be truly who you are. Show your sincerity and your vulnerabilities. Never attempt to manipulate him with these actions. You must be able to show your feelings and know how to express it in a respectful way.
Another way to keep your man adoring you is to show your Passion for Life and passion for the things you love to do. You have no idea how beautiful you are when you are talking about something you care for and are passionate about. It is a huge turn on for men. Learn how to use this attribute to engage and excite your partner.
All that energy you were channeling into getting a man’s love can now be redirected back to yourself! And this makes you incredibly attractive. Remember, a real man wants to make you happy! When you’re happy, He’s happy.
#3 – Do NOT get into “mothering mode” and attempt to manage your man.
As women, we are natural caretakers. Nurturing is in our genes. When a woman loves a man, she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things. Telling him how to handle a problem or what to do at work, constant reminders to watch his diet, commenting on everything he eats and how he should only eat food that is good for him, telling him how he should fold his clothes, reminding him that it has been many days since he made it to the gym to work out.
She forms a home-improvement community. She believes she is nurturing him. But he feels he is being controlled… or “mothered”. Most of the time, all he wants is her acceptance. (I know you want your man to eat healthily and stay physically fit so you both can live a long and healthy life together for many years. And, there are specific techniques to work together on improving each other. But “mothering” is not one of these techniques.)
When a woman tries to over-nurture or force a man to improve, he will feel that she is trying to “fix” him. He will unconsciously resist the effort. He will sometimes incorrectly interpret this message that he is not good enough or he is not measuring up to your expectations.
Give up giving unsolicited advice or directing his every action.
To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume he doesn’t know what to do or he cannot figure it out on his own. For many men, it is very important to prove that they can get to their goals. Even if it is a small thing like driving to a restaurant. Men pride themselves on being experts. Especially when it comes to fixing things, getting places, or solving problems. If you ask him to help you on a task, give him the task and trust him that he can get the job done. Let him do it the way he wants to do it. If you can really start doing these 3 things, you will keep your man love you forever, keep the intimacy alive.
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