The Turning Point of My Love Life

Greetings from New York!  This weekend, we are at New York to enjoy the beautiful fall foliage.  Autumn in New York is beautiful. I still remember years ago when Jim and I just met.  He took me for our first trip together to visit this place.  It is now one of our favorite place to visit every year around this time.  Following our first trip to New York, things went so well between us that at Christmas time, he surprised me with another trip. This time to Paris!  Celebrating the New Year under the Eiffel Tower.  Travel is my passion.  He knows this and really knows how to make me happy.

You might say I was lucky to get the right guy. But I have to tell you that I had been single for more than 10 years before I met him.  In those years, I struggled with exactly the same things you are going through now… all the frustrations, fears and doubts.  I struggled with them too.

Do you want to know what the biggest turning point was in my love life? I would say when I decided to change my thinking patterns and beliefs.  After years of kissing so many frogs and not being able to turn them into a prince, I started doubting myself.  I began to ask myself, “Was something wrong with me?  Was I not lovable?”  My mom even added to my self-doubt, saying all the good quality men around my age were either taken or would be more interested in younger, prettier women.   That made me add another false belief that I was too old to find a good quality man.

The pattern continued to repeat… until I discovered the concept of “limiting beliefs” and how they can shape our reality.  Beliefs are powerful things, either positive beliefs or negative beliefs. We formed our ‘limiting beliefs” based on our own life experience or through influence from people around us.  Eventually we begin to think that are the truth.  As the Law of Attraction states, “like attracts like”.  Our life only happens the way we think and believe it will happen.  At that time when I believed I wasn’t lovable, the relationships I had really made me feel I wasn’t lovable.

Only after I liberated myself from those limiting beliefs. My life started to change and led me to meet the love of my life.

If you’ve been following my blogs or FB live for a while, you already know that what I do goes far beyond just dating/relationship advice.

You may have come here looking for help with your love life.  You may be getting a lot out of the tips and techniques I give you every week, and I believe that is wonderful progress. (Don’t worry…I’ll keep them coming!)  😉

But there is a bigger journey, a deeper layer of change we need than just using those tips and techniques.

Videos like this give you a glimpse of the many insights. But if you want more than the insights… if you don’t want to spend another day alone, if you want to improve your current relationship into one that is fulfilling and happy, then let me help guide you.


If what you want most is someone special to share upcoming holidays with you, I encourage you to grab a clarity call with me today. I will help you uncover any hidden beliefs and challenges that could be getting in the way of reaching success in your relationships.


Much love,

Xiaoli Mei

Happiness In Love Coach


About Xiaoli Mei

Xiaoli Mei is a Certified Life Coach, known as the Happiness In Love™ Coach for coaching professional Asian women to find true love and to bring balance to a happy relationship with a busy career.

Having been on a quest to live the life of her dreams and share it with her beloved, Xiaoli emigrated to the United States from China in the late 90’s. She successfully established a career in Corporate America working for Fortune 100 companies. However, in spite of her great career, Xiaoli found herself feeling miserable, empty, lonely, confused and sad. Having experienced two failed marriages and other broken relationships, she knew there had to be a way to balance a successful career AND to have a fulfilling relationship.

Undeterred from her past experiences, Xiaoli set out to crack the “Happiness Code” while working two jobs and raising her 2 children as a single mom in San Francisco Bay Area.  She discovered what it takes for Asian career women to find lasting happiness and love in the Western world.

Today Xiaoli lives happily with her life partner and teaches women from all cultural backgrounds on finding their true love. She guides her clients to bring balance to career and love and helps them attain joy and harmony in their lives without sacrificing one important life aspiration over another.  Xiaoli is loved by her clients. Her coaching style is witty, wise, and highly empowering. She is an inspirational speaker and a natural motivator.

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